“Healing taught me that honesty won’t ruin a real thing. Speaking on your feelings won’t lose you anything worth having. Setting boundaries won’t scare off proper people. And authenticity won’t cost you genuine relationships.

Remember that the next time you feel like shit because someone pulled away from you for respecting yourself, sharing your feelings, setting a boundary, and/or holding them accountable.” —Bhavjot Kaur Kang

I just came across this quote, and it is exactly what I have been searching for to heal. For the past week or two, anyway.

I recently spoke my feelings and was honest with people I love…I purged a truth. And it has caused a disconnect…at best a chasm…with some folks. Something that happened a long time ago. But something very present in my mind, body and soul. I shared it with those who didn’t want to hear it.

It is in my heart of hearts that honesty is the way to go, and then just move on and heal, if needed. It is curious to me that doesn’t work for other folks. They are happy pretending, regardless of the cost of other’s feelings.

I am now in the midst of a fire because of this, but I am certain I will get to the other side, and I pray those I love will be standing there with me. And the pain and the anger and the resentment, of all of us, will stay in that fire and slowly turn to smoldering coals…and blow away like dust in the wind.

Signed – Authentic me.